Birthday

I don’t like advertising my birthday for a few reasons. Because I don’t want to feel a lot of pressure to celebrate and so that people don’t treat me any differently. As an Asian-American birthdays are confusing because your American friends are celebrating with gift and parties. But as immigrants all my parents could afford and make time for was …

The People in Your Life

Since I was a kid, I yearned for total and complete independence from my parents. When I got my first job and lived on my own, it was glorious! I bought a bike, went on trips, and enjoyed my freedom. But over the years, my approach to life has left me wanting more: a companion to share my adventures and …

The Start of a Six Pack

Haha not that kind of six pack. The local hikers call the six tallest peaks in LA “the six pack”. Last weekend Lea, Christina, Carol and I hiked the 15 mile round trip to Mt. Wilson and back. On the way up we made plans to hike the other 5 peaks by the end of 2016.        The weather …

Find the Awe in Anything

Last night Belinda came to town. We met up, had dinner, then teamed up with her urban photographer friend to wander around and shoot photos. She said she would take us to the tunnels and everyone got excited. I was excited too! “Wow there are really cool tunnels in LA that I’ve never been to,” I thought to myself. So we …

The Temple of Promise

One of the unique events at Burning Man is the burning of the Temple on the last day. Every year a temple is errected and meant to be a place where burners can leave photos, notes, words, trinkets…anything they want to be burned on the last day. Walking through the temple can be quite solem and heartfelt. Many people leave …

Old Bay Seasoning

Remember when we had seafood boil on the rooftop of your apartment? We had too much stuff to carry but we had a shopping cart. There was a giant chess set, a fireplace, and the LA sky. And I think just a little bit of magic.

You know who you are

My first birthday present came in the mail a few days early and immediately I knew it was from you. You’re the best. I’ve already worn it twice. You reminded me that I needed to call my dad. And in that moment I knew you were looking out for me. I hadn’t felt that feeling in a long time. It gave …

Everything is Temporary

I was having a conversation with a friend and she was worried about her relationship because she knew it was temporary. And I felt, well everything is temporary. If life has taught me anything it’s that beginnings can’t be anticipated and endings are unexpected. Sometimes endings are drawn out or relationships are brief. You can’t know the future. I had a friend through …

Talk your way into Love

First read this.  Form some opinions. Then come back. I love this idea that in two hours you could talk your way into love. And I love that they bring to light the idea that intimacy comes from knowing each other. Knowing what the other person thinks and feels and why. You can skim the surface of a relationship for …

You Always Meet Twice in a Lifetime

I used to be so very sentimental. Full of feeling and empathy and happiness for my friends and life. High school was probably the happiest time of my life. A place where I shared ideals and understandings about life and love. One day I was sad about saying goodbye to someone…now I forget who, but another friend of mine, David, …